A couple weeks ago I was in California at a conference with an incredible group of my holistic health colleagues. One theme of the weekend was that too much support can hold us back from achieving our goals and stepping up to be who we are meant to be. Your initial reaction to this might be surprise. How can support be a bad thing?
It’s not. Support isn’t bad. In fact, it’s key to our success and happiness. But support without stretching can hold us back. It can lead to the feeling that what you’re already doing is good enough, and that feeling can lead to complacency. As with many things in life, this is a matter of balance. We need to balance our driven, perfectionist side with our accepting, better less-than-perfect than never side.
Support allows us to accept and be where we are. Stretching keeps our eyes and intention on what’s next. And the best brand of Stretching helps us move outside our comfort zone and dream bigger for ourselves than we ever would have without the push.
I get a lot of support (and some stretching) from my family and friends. They often suggest that I’m doing too much and they can’t believe how busy I am. It’s great to hear that because I tend to lose sight of how much I take on. But, I recently realized that all this support can sometimes bring me to a screeching halt as I repeat to myself what I’ve been told (I’m too busy. I do sooo much. I’m working a full-time job and owning a business and volunteering and…) and I use it as an excuse to take a big break from, well, everything (complacency). Did I mention my nature is a bit extremist?
Despite the fact that, for me, support can sometimes lead to complacency, I know that the support I receive is powerful. For an overachiever like me (yikes, I said it out loud), when you have tons of things you want to say “Yes!” to, it can feel nearly impossible to say “No, thank you, not right now”, and it’s support that helps you see why (and when) you have to say no sometimes.
So, I have great support and I know it’s important for my sanity, but I also know that I can use this support as an excuse to avoid the discomfort zone. Okay then, what happens now? Well, this is where Stretching comes in, and I am beyond lucky to have a community of holistic health colleagues who are challenging, stretching, and supporting me. The latest challenge I have accepted is to create 30 Holistic Health Videos in 30 Days. This is a big stretch for me because, until 3 days ago, I had never made a video. It’s also a big time commitment and more than a little scary to put myself out there like that. But I’m doing it. I started on June 3rd and I’ve already posted 3 videos. My intention is to post 1 video every day through July 3rd (and who knows, maybe I’ll keep it going).
I’d like to invite you to do three things:
You probably have at least 1 person in your life who offers you unconditional support. That’s great! I’d like to offer you the chance to stretch a little too. Are you up for it? We’ll start small and simple.
You can use this exercise again and again to keep stretching yourself on old goals or to begin stretching yourself with new ones. And if you like what you’re reading and want some personalized support + stretching from me, then take the first step and schedule your 1-on-1 Strategy Session today!
eat well. live well. be well. stretch well.